The American Psychological Association says that about 40 to 50 percent of couples in the U.S. get a divorce. Subsequent marriages demonstrate even higher divorce rates. It’s not hard to imagine why. A lot of people go into their marriage blind. They don’t have a good foundation, don’t know each other well enough, or haven’t got a clue how to communicate with each other. That’s where good premarital therapists come in.
Why Go for Premarital Counseling?
Most people think counselling is for married couples whose relationship is already at a flashpoint. But damage control isn’t nearly as effective as quality control, and that’s the effect premarital counseling has on a partnership. It can give your relationship the strong foundation it needs to survive when things get tough. It can also help you discuss things before they become major issues in the relationship and give you and your partner a better chance at married life.
How Do Counselors Help?
Therapists provide a neutral influence throughout your discussions. When conversations take an emotional turn, they keep things from degenerating into a fight. They help you resolve major issues in a positive way.
Therapists also teach you how to communicate much more effectively with your spouse. It’s not just about reframing your arguments but learning how to listen better, to empathize, and to put yourself in your partner’s shoes.
Therapists help you determine the importance of being in sync for major life decisions like buying a home or having kids.
Therapists can talk to you about your past and help you make peace with it. If you’ve been having anxiety attacks or have been afraid that the marriage won’t last because you came from a broken family or already have a previous divorce, talking about your fears in therapy can help you manage them better.
Conclusion
When you go into your marriage, make sure you’re prepared for anything and everything. Give the relationship the foundation it needs with premarital counselling.
